I talked to Peeper about this sudden reduction in nursing.
Mama: So, I’ve noticed you’re not getting goody very much lately. What’s up with that?
Peeper: It’s just that when I’m the characters, I don’t get goody.
Mama: Oh, okay.
Peeper: (pause) And I’m a big girl.
After asking a few more questions, I got out of her that it’s “only when she’s characters” that she doesn’t get goody, and she’s not weaned, she will still get goody sometimes, but she doesn’t get it much anymore and doesn’t need it to go to sleep, because she’s a big girl.
I talked to her a bit about the supply and demand nature of breastmilk production, and how mama’s goodies know to make milk when the baby (or kid) gets the milk out, so if she’s not getting goody very much, my goodies will know that she doesn’t need much milk. I told her I’ve squeezed some out in the shower and will keep doing that to keep them from getting too full and ouchy, but that they won’t make as much if she’s not nursing so, “If you decide you need some goody, don’t be surprised if there’s not much milk there.”
We discussed the possibility of a weaning party when she decides that she’s done, but she hasn’t decided about that. At first, she said no, “Because cupcakes with goodies on them would be embarassing.” (When we talked about it before, we were joking about getting A to make cupcakes with boobs and a red “no” sign on them.) I assured her that we would not have to have cupcakes with goodies. She said, “Cupcakes with nipples?” No, we don’t have to have those either.
We talked a bit about who we would – and would not – invite if we did have a party, and I also gave her the option of a “private party” with just the three of us.
But she doesn’t have to decide right now, because she’s still going to get goody sometimes.
I did ask her if she could do something for me, and when she decides that she’s weaned and isn’t going to get goody any more, please let me know.
Then she asked why I was crying.